A Difference of Opinion
Posted by ypcice on October 17, 2008
Hey You Guys!!!!!!! Yeah, yeah, I know I have been very absent, sorry bad Cice. But, I had to post today I need to hear some of you alls thoughts on this conversation I had last night. I had a very intense conversation last night with someone and it had me thinking well into the night…
This particular young lady was talking about marrying her boyfriend. Currently they attend the same church, but she is not satisfied with that church. She feels like she isn’t growing there and she is leaving. She stated that she no longer believes they were not teaching sound doctrine. Well, boyfriend likes the church and has no plans to leave. She made the comment that they would just be attending different churches, it doesn’t matter she was leaving anyway. That bothered me. So, I asked her didn’t she think it would be difficult for them to function that way. She didn’t think so. But, I my mind all I could hear over and over was “One Flesh”. I asked her then, “How can two walk except they agree (Amos 3:3).” Her argument was that then that should be in everything they do. That they are out of agreement if they work at two different places. I just stopped talking and let her continue with this odd argument. At least to me it was odd.
Genesis 2:24 says to us that God created man and woman to become “one flesh” when they marry, not two separate beings who go their own separate ways. I was taught that the marriage covenant between a man and a woman is symbolic of the covenant between Christ and those for whom He died. And that this covenant is holy and sacred, just as marriage is to be holy, sacred and unbroken. Shouldn’t a a husband and wife be of one mind regarding the basic doctrines of Christianity – God, Christ, sin, salvation, heaven/hell, etc? Maybe I am confused. That is why I am writing this today…what do you think?
beans3bk said
Now my baby and I don’t see eye to eye on some of our religious beliefs that is because this relationship is new. The fact that he is a christian borother is enough for me, but in order for us to go deeper we must discuss these things and get on one accord. I believe the man and women must be equally yoked. There is no way a family can function properly worshiping seperately. At least not as far as I am concerned. She needs to get in line with her future husband and like you said, function as one. I think she is making a big mistake if she does not. A family must be united. The parents needs to govern the children, how can they do that if that function off of two different doctrines, but what do I know.
beans3bk said
I meant brother, guess I need to spell check, apologies
David said
aww that is a no brainer to me….the two MUST be equally yoked. I’ll come back to that. First off, there is an order to everything is God’s eyes. I feel that a woman should submit to her husband. Hear me out….I’m not talking about laying down and just letting the man do anything, but she should definitely be the follower. Now on the equally yoked thing…a family or shall I say a marriage must be equally yoked…if you are both getting fed at two different places that is a problem. Yes, you both are eating but not the same food….thus a same response. The food you eat at McDonald’s is completely different from Olive Garden…..
beans3bk said
Write this down Cice, I agree with Dew on this one. You are so on point. I think your friend is tripping. She may need a reality check
ypcice said
Now, I know there are or maybe other issues that may cause them to be on different pages where church is concerned. It is quite possible for a husband and wife to have differing tastes as far as music, preaching or worship styles, children’s programs, etc., none of these things are should be significant enough to cause a family to attend different churches based on tastes. But, if both churches are Bible-based and Christ-honoring, there is no reason why one spouse can’t bend a little and put their own personal preferences aside. Maybe it would be a better alternative for the couple to join forces and seek a church that where the Word of God is preached as the only source for faith and practice, where the entire family can learn and worship together. The fact of the matter is, the husband as the spiritual head of the family should take the lead and make the final decision, and it would be best advised for him to take his wife’s concerns and input into consideration.
David said
I agree Cice, but religion is such a delicate issue. If they are rooted at different places at the core, sometime compromise is not going to work. The core you is the core you….that does not change. One thing a person should not compromise is where they are at in their walk with God. I’m not gonna bend from that standpoint. Now I might read something and get a new understanding and go from their…but if one person it not getting their spiritual man fed, that is serious. I do believe that they can find a place where they can move towards the same goal in thru God together….I don’t think that is compromise, that is vision. If the husband has no plans to leave…real talk…that relationship is a wrap.
© J. McCarthy said
The fact of the matter is, the husband as the spiritual head of the family should take the lead and make the final decision, and it would be best advised for him to take his wife’s concerns and input into consideration. –
I know I am all late, but I think your statement pretty much sums it up. She needs to support her man, and allow him to be the spiritual leader and follow him. The issue is really a matter of faith because when it boils down to it, she has to ask herself a question…does she trust that God speaks to her man? If that is so, God will lead him where they need to go. Really as simple as that. I know that is a hard situation for some women, but if they want the relationship to last, there has to be some type of order established.
beans3bk said
That makes total sense I feel that if God has actually joined this union then she should follow the commands of God and do everything in order and if it is out of order she will be able to tell and then move on from there. There can be no dissention. That will cause more problems.